I’ve spent the past few years plodding along, but not really going anywhere. Certainly, the past few years have been filled with loss and change. Life changes our plans, and sometimes our plans change our lives. Sometimes we can control the changes in our lives. Other times, the changes take control and pull us along with or without our consent. I have learned something important, though. Most days are there for the taking. Most days at least have the potential to be a GOOD DAY. What happens, though? Well, I certainly can’t speak for anyone else, but I know what my problem has been. Instead of treating each day as a gift full of potential, I have continued pedaling along on a course that goes nowhere. Too often, I have looked back at days that are in the past, agonized over things beyond my control, and wasted the potential of each fresh, new day. It’s time to get off of the hamster wheel. Continue Reading »
I read an interesting article today. I just happened upon it, but something in the title caught my eye. I don’t remember the exact wording, but it was something about determining when to keep pushing yourself and when there a need to allow yourself to rest. Those of us who are driven individuals have most likely trained ourselves to keep pushing, don’t give up, be relentless in the pursuit of….whatever, you can fill in the blank on this one. That’s certainly the story of my life. I’m not a quitter. Giving up is a foreign concept to me. It doesn’t fit. It doesn’t feel good, and it certainly doesn’t feel natural. Continue Reading »
Today was a long day, and I am surprised to find myself writing a blog post. I didn’t get home from work until after 9:30. It was a draining day, and on top of that, I haven’t been feeling well. All I wanted to do was sit down and relax for a while before going to bed, but the words were brewing and bubbling up inside of me, so here I am, writing again.
As I sat here quietly trying to unwind, my head was replaying moments from my busy day. It was a strange day that seemed to take place like scenes from a play. Scene I: a morning phone call. Scene II: a quiet, contemplative drive to work. Scene III: a meeting with mega-rich hoteliers. On and on, my day went from one scene to the next. The only player that was constant was me. I walked out on the stage never knowing what I was going to get. Everyone else seemed to know their lines, but not me. Maybe I was feeling a bit scattered because I didn’t feel well. I felt like I was a step behind. I felt uncertain and unsure.
As I sat here tonight replaying the scenes, I thought about the interactions I had today with such a wide variety of people. My work day ended by giving a presentation to a large group of business owners and residents at a public meeting. Each scene of my day had a different tone, and I thought about that as I sat on the couch trying to relax. Moments can go well, or they can be fraught with difficulty. It can go either way. So much is dependent on the people involved. Kindness seems to be the key element. The addition or the lack of kindness can tip a situation in one direction or the other. Continue Reading »